First, let's talk about this whole break up thing. I understand what you're going through. I've been there. We all have.

But one thing I discovered a while back is that there's this whole mess of information that proves that pretty close to 100% of relationships can actually be saved -- even AFTER one of the people says they want to break up.

And this is true even if only YOU want to get back together!

It's pretty amazing, and I'm going to tell you about that in a second. But first let's talk about how to get back on your feet, okay?

Breaking up is something that everyone has dealt with at least once in their lives. Breaking up can be a really rough thing to go through and no matter who you are chances are that you do not enjoy the ending of a relationship.

We all handle break ups differently but you can guarantee one thing, no one likes breaking up with someone they really care about. Here are some steps to help you get over a break up; these steps may not work for everyone because we all deal with things in our own way. But they should be helpful for the majority of people.

Okay, the first thing I want you to do is to understand, like I said, that even if your ex has said there's no way they'll get back together, this just isn't true.

There are some sort of "Jedi Mind Tricks" you can use to actually convince them that they screwed up and to desperately want you back.

Don't worry, there's nothing dishonest or sneaky about any of it. But it does take some practice, and a lot of it goes completely against what you probably think you should do to save the relationship.

It's all explained in this short video (click on the link to watch it) that I found. It's under 10 minutes and is vital for you to watch right now. It's pretty amazing. Watch it now. It'll be the best 10 minutes you spend today. Trust me.

I truly believe that you should give some thought to winning your ex back (assuming you want to) and watch the video above to see how to do it.

But in the meantime you want to get over the pain you're feeling. Here are some tips.

Step Number One:

Take some time and think about what really went wrong in your relationship. You need to realize that the break up may not have been all your fault or you may have not had any fault at all in the ending of the relationship.

Remember that it takes two people to start a relationship, two people to keep the relationship alive but only one person to decide that the relationship is over. Also, sometimes the end of the relationship isn't always the true end; sometimes people just need a break from each other.

You need to accept that the break up hurts and have a good long cry if you need to. You also need to accept your mistakes and shortcomings to get your mental state back to healthy.

You need to believe that you are a good person and that the ending of the relationship may lead to denial. However once you are able to get out of the denial phase you can finally begin to move on to a better stage in your life.

You need to stay clear of your ex for a while even if you decided that you wanted to stay friends. It is best that the two of you take a complete break form each other for the time being.

This does not have to be a permanent break but just for a little while until you are both over any hard feelings that may have been created by the break up.

Remember that there should be absolutely no sex until the time that you are your ex decide to get back together, if you decide to get back together. There is always a little hope for this happening.

Talk to someone. Anyone, it can be a family member or your friends, it does not matter who you talk to just talk to someone who can comfort you when you need it.

You may find that the person or people you talk to will have some good advice, maybe advice on how to get your ex back or if your ex is still in love with you. Also by surrounding yourself with people who think you are worthwhile will help you to realize that there are still people that care about you.

These are just four of the steps that can help you get over loosing the love of your life. However, don't ignore the very real possibility of winning them back!

I'm serious about this. If you haven't watched this video yet, I really think you should do it now. You'll be really surprised and what you'll find there.

Thanks. And good luck!