valeria's Stuff

1. Students' attitudes, feelings, and behaviors regarding mediation?

2. Students' methods of dealing with conflict?

3. Students' attitudes, feelings, and behavior in school?

4. School climate?

5. Structure of the mediation program?

6. Societal issues?

___1. It sounds like you were not playing by the rules.

___2.Why did you do that? That was a foolish thing to do.

___3. The best way for you to handle this is to ask the teacher to let you sit at a different desk.

___4. It seems that one of you is lying.

___5. Do you think that you could pay Larry for the radio?

What's it like for you?

What does it mean to you?

How do you feel when…

Can you describe/explain…

Tell me more about…

Please clarify…

What do you specifically mean by________?

Can you give an example of what you mean by (respect, friendship, etc.)

If a person were a real friend, what would s/he have done in this situation?

What do you value or expect from (a friend, a boss, etc.)

How does that work for you?

Can you explain what you assumed when…

What were your expectations?

What were your intentions?

What were you hoping s/he would do?

What do you think about when you hear________?

What reservations do you have?

How do you see or understand the same incident?

Is there anything else you would like us (the conciliators) to know or understand that you think we don't know now?

What would you like _________to know or understand about you that you think s/he doesn't understand yet?

Regarding the agreement, what could cause it to break down?

What would you make difficult to keep the arrangement you just made?

How will you explain the change in your relationship (behavior) to your friends…What will you say about it?